Feel the Fear And Do It Anyway

“Feel the Fear And Do It Anyway” by Susan Jeffers, PhD is a book I read long before I knowingly started my journey.   The concepts it spoke of were way more than I could wrap my brain around back then, but the title somehow became a mantra for me.  That said I’d like to share an experience with you that on the surface sounds silly.  Yet when I dug down to the root of the matter, I realized there was way more to it than I originally thought.

I live about an hour from New York City and have always had a love/hate relationship with it.  I love the theatres, museums, and architecture.  Central Park is beautiful and the shopping.  Oh, how I love the shopping.  However, all these wonderful things come at a price.  I have a hard time being around that much energy for long periods of time.  Things move too fast for me and the people always seem so disconnected and distant.

Friday, I had an appointment with a chiropractor in the city that connects and works with angels.  Actually, we were going to do a healing exchange and I was really looking forward to it.  At this point, you may be thinking, “yeah, so what”.  Well, on the rare occasions I do go in to the city, I generally drive.   However, my friend’s office is in an area where parking is almost impossible and it just makes sense to take mass transit.  OMG!  That was a huge trigger for me.  I had no idea.  I’m not afraid of riding the bus or subway, but my anxiety levels were through the roof.  Trying to read the bus and subway schedules became a “thing” which in turn made everything else going on my life feel almost catastrophic.  I was terrified of getting on the wrong train, or getting off at the wrong stop….oh, and the whole “buying a ticket” deal was setting me off too.  I was worried I’d get lost in the city all by myself.   You get the idea.

One side of me was stuck in the emotions and the other was looking at me like I was nuts….judging the fear as ridiculous.  So what if I got lost, I’m always getting lost.  At times, I’ve found wonderful surprises while trying to get back enroute.  No big deal.  Yeah, tell that to my fear based mind.

Thank goodness for side number three.  Side number three was viewing the situation from the point of an observer.  It was from there that I was able to recognize that there was more to what I called “unfounded fear”.  I sat down and treated myself as I would a client.  I started asking myself questions and allowing myself to feel the emotions that the questions brought up.  What I learned was that I wasn’t afraid of being lost and alone in the city.  What I feared was being lost and alone in life.  That’s how I have felt for most of my life and I was afraid of going back there.   Once I understood what the ‘real’ fear was, I was able to address it.  I worked on it partly with thetahealing and partly by reminding myself of some simple truths.

First of all, I know I’m always in the ‘perfect’ place at the ‘perfect’ time, as are you.  I know that even though I may be alone at the physical level sometimes, I’m never fully alone, neither are you.  My guides, angels, and Spirit are always there with me, as yours are with you.  It’s hard to remember that things are just as they should be when we feel lost.  It’s hard to recall that we’re not alone when we crave the physical touch of another.  Learning to be comfortable under those conditions isn’t easy.  It’s possible, though…I promise you that….and once you get to that space, you won’t feel lost or lonely.

The most important point to remember is to be kind to yourself.  Learn to stop judging your fears.  Instead explore them and find the root.  You’ll discover the fear is not so silly after all.  Once you find the root, you can face it, heal it, and let it go.

Think of something you are afraid of right now, especially something you call a ‘silly fear’.   Spend some time with it.  Other than fear, what emotions come up?  When did you first discover the fear?  What happened right before you experienced it for the first time?  These are some of the questions that will help you discover and release the root of your fears.  So yes, feel the fear, explore the fear, heal the fear, let it go….and just do it.  You don’t have to like it, but imagine how empowered you’ll feel after facing your fear.