Was your mom perfect?
I know mine wasn’t.
And even though she wasn’t, my friends loved her and so did I.
I remember how she took care of everyone. If it was dinner time, there was always enough food for a few extra people.
The house was always clean, I don’t ever remember the laundry being out of control.
And she had this personal rule that she’d be dressed, showered, and her make-up would be on when my dad got home from work.
It sounds a little old fashioned, but these things were important to her.
I tried to mimic her way for years and years until I just couldn’t anymore.
I used to think that I liked all the stereotypical housewifey things. But I don’t. Not at all.
So I stepped away from living my life like that and the ensuing guilt was almost all-consuming.
I felt like I wasn’t respecting my mother or her memory by allowing myself to step out of the box.
I felt like there was something wrong with me because that role felt suffocating instead of fulfilling.
I felt like I didn’t have the right to be my own woman.
And most of all, I was afraid that by me being me, I was making my mother wrong for being who she was.
Have you ever felt like that? If so, you have mother wounding.
If you had an abusive or emotionally unavailable mom, mother wounding would make sense.
But if you had a mom who loved you and tried to be supportive, you wouldn’t expect to have mother wounds.
But you do and they show up in your thinking and habits, your finances, your relationships, and your overall happiness.
They can keep you from the freedom of living your life, of being yourself, of spending time with your family, of feeling fulfilled.
So what do you do about it? One thing to remember goes back to what I said about my mom.
She wasn’t perfect. She did the best she could, but she wasn’t perfect.
And neither is your mom.
And, contrary to popular belief, being a good mother is not instinctive.
That’s important to understand. And when you get that you’re one step closer to being free.
It’s time to heal your mother wounds and to stop letting the pain of the past affect your future.
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Much love and abundant blessings,
